This is just another aspect of women’s sexuality that is never talked about, due to old outdated ideas, beliefs and restrictions that have affected women’s well-being for way too long.
I remember experiencing my very first orgasm many years ago (not going into any detail but still remember the amazing feeling of freedom and a bit of a shock when I came back to earth).
Many years later when I was having a bunch of emotional and physical problems my Doctor prescribed me an anti-depressant, I took it reluctantly for a few weeks and in that time wondered what had happened to my body as I could not reach orgasm, and this caused me even more stress and worry, as the Doctor had failed to warn me about this common side affect of the drug!
Different Types of Anorgasmia
- Lifelong anorgasmia – never experienced and orgasm
- Acquired anorgasmia – used to have orgasms, but now experience difficulty reaching climax
- Situational anorgasmia – Able to orgasm only during certain circumstances, such as during oral sex or with a certain partner. Most women can’t reach orgasm through vaginal penetration alone.
- Generalised anorgasmia – Aren’t able to orgasm in any situation with or with any partner.
Causes of Anorgasmia
Medical diseases
Any illness can affect this part of the human sexual response cycle, such as diabetes, and neurological disease such as multiple sclerosis.
Gynaecological issues.
Such as having a hysterectomy or cancer, as a result there may be pain or just feel uncomfortable.
Medications.
Many medications whether prescription or over the counter, can interfere with orgasm. Including blood pressure medication, antihistamines and anti-depressants.
Alcohol & Smoking
Too much alcohol can get in the way of your ability to reach orgasm and smoking can inhibit blood flow.
The aging process
Reduction in hormones, and other various changes affecting the circulatory or neurological systems can affect sexuality. Lowering of oestrogen levels during menopause, decrease in blood flow to vagina and clitoris can all delay or stop o
Orgasm entirely.
Mental health problems – anxiety or depression
Poor body image
Stress & financial pressure
Religious and cultural beliefs
Fear of pregnancy or sexually transmitted disease
Embarrassment
Guilt
Past Sexual Abuse
Lack of connection to partner
Unresolved conflict or fights
Poor communication of sexual needs and preferences
Infidelity
Exposure to pornography
Also note:
People can be focussing on reaching orgasm rather than being present in the moment.
The women’s role is NOT to be ready for penetration (are you listening guys?) It’s purely about pleasure and enjoying the experience.
The Law of Reversed Effect
Can come into play, in that the harder you try to reach the orgasm, the harder it is to achieve. So relax and enjoy the moment without any pressure to perform.
Hypnosis Can Help
Hypnosis can help to tap into your internal unconscious resources. Helping to reduce anxiety, stressful thinking and the limiting beliefs that can add to the problem. Including guilt, shame, confidence issues, body image and much more. If this is an area you would like some help. Reach out. Book an online discovery conversation via my website with no obligation to continue with sessions.